After a really busy year I am now unemployed with no idea when I’ll next have a job. Its a strange old life. I’ve really enjoyed working and I must admit that I am at my happiest when I’m juggling a thousand different things, but for now though I trying to concentrate on enjoying the last few weeks of the summer holidays. But there’s a lot of worries in our household for upcoming events.
My youngest is heading to secondary school in September and I will be a mother of two ‘High School’ daughters. I can’t believe how quickly it has gone by, seems like two minutes ago that I was worrying about their first day at school. Tallulah is starting her GCSE course now and has spent most of the break drawing and creating in her Art sketch book, and she can’t wait to get stuck in. We’re really lucky that in the subjects that she loves, Art, History and English she is self motivated, she loves school and misses it when she’s not there but she does have a tendency to worry. She’s already worrying whether she’s going to get the grades she wants to go to university. Our job is to find ways to make her relax put things in to perspective and just concentrate on the things that she has control over. Missie on the other hand wants to be an actor and finds academia really difficult. She swings between wanting to go to her new school, and dreading it, worried that she won’t be able to keep up. She has watched her big sister navigate her way through the homework and the politics of secondary school and she’s comparing herself. We try and let our girls know that we are not expecting them to be straight A students, but we expect them to be the best they can be. This is difficult when you have one child that excels in an area that the other one doesn’t. We try not to compare, but its hard for them to not compare themselves.We’re the same as adults though aren’t we? We know that we shouldn’t compare, that there will always be someone brighter, cleverer more successful than ourselves, but we can’t help it.
I need to lead by example, show the girls that worrying about things beyond your control is pointless and counter productive. If we all try to be the best that we can be, be happy with our lot, then whatever the outcome is the outcome that was meant to be.
We all need to take a break, recharge, enjoy family time and enjoy the peace whilst we can because there is always some kind of ‘drama’ around the corner.